When My Expectations Don’t Match My Reality

"I think you might be losing sight of the fact that he has an autism spectrum diagnosis. That's not going away. We need to talk about adjusting your expectations." This is what the behavioral pediatrician told me in our appointment last week. She said it in response to me telling her all the things we were "working on" and all the things that were...Read More

Grieving My Child’s Diagnosis

When I was in high school, I learned about Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's Five Stages of Grief (the stages we go through when we are processing a significant loss or change). It was part of an assignment for a speech I was working on in debate class. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance I still have them memorized. One of the things I remember learning about...Read More

Giving Ourselves Grace

You might be the worst mom ever. How could you let him play Minecraft that long? Did you even think about what vegetable to serve for dinner tonight?  He can't have that much sugar. Why did you say yes to the candy bar? You're choosing easy over what is right, again. Why didn't you sign him up for the social skills class sooner? How...Read More

Lies I Believe About Being A “Special Needs Mom”

I leaned over the kitchen counter, my head in my hands, and tried to take a few deep breaths. The house was a disaster, I hadn't finished reading lessons my youngest in three days, I was still in my pj's at 11AM, and my eleven year old was melting down over not being able to buy a crested gecko in the next 10 minutes. So,...Read More