“You baby him. He’s almost eleven years old and you are still helping him get his socks on straight.” “You can’t keep treating him like a baby. He is old enough to sleep through the night. You need some tough love here.” “You are still helping him tie his shoes? Are you kidding me? How… Continue reading Am I Babying My Son?
I read a book by a very sweet lady earlier this week. In it, she describes how she prays for her children. Y’all, it was like poetry. Poetry with scripture woven throughout, and so many Biblical references, I felt educated just reading them. And, I felt inadequate. And, I felt bad for my boys –… Continue reading Ordinary Mom Prayers
I wrote an entire post last week whining about how hard it is to be consistent with our routines. Turns out, I am not alone in this quest to figure out how to maintain the flow of our days. Many of you asked for more information about what our routines are, no matter how bad… Continue reading Weekly And Daily Routines (that are not so routine)
When my son kicked the windshield, I didn’t think it would break. I was wrong. Apparently, the force of losing all rational thought and ability was enough to crack it from end to end. He was crying, flailing and screaming at me. “I can’t do it. Mommmmeeeeeeeee. I can’t. I can’t go in.” We were… Continue reading Why Is My Child So Explosive?
A sweet friend texted me last week from a waiting room. Her son was in the room next door, undergoing additional neuropsychological evaluations. She said she knew I would understand. The waiting. The mounting fear. The worry. The silence. The beige decor. The straining to hear what was being said on the other side of the… Continue reading For The Waiting Room Mom
There are eleven separate chronic diagnoses between my two children. Seven times I have sat in a beige room on a beige couch and heard a doctor say the words I knew were coming, but still didn’t want to hear. Your child has… Autism Bipolar Disorder, Type 1 Anxiety Disorder ADHD Sensory Processing Disorder Lupus… Continue reading 10 Must-Read Books For Parenting A Child With Special Needs
Mom confession time. I totally let my son watch four episodes of SpongeBob yesterday. In a row. I dozed on the couch with the aggravating sounds of Squidward and Patrick in the background. It was my son who stopped the incessant music playing at the end of the episode. “I’m bored,” he said, looking at… Continue reading Why Are Consistent Routines So Hard?
I was chatting with a younger momma recently who asked me to share some tips and tricks for motherhood. She said she thought our life, and all it’s crazy, might have taught me a few things that she could apply in her life as well (with or without special needs). She’s right. Most of the… Continue reading What Being A ‘Special Needs’ Mom Has Taught Me About Just Plain Being A Mom
“Your son is complicated. It is going to take time to fix this. He’s like a puzzle with a lot of pieces that we need to fit together.” He said it with a smile, but my heart sank. Fix this…puzzle pieces…complicated. “I’m not sure I see it the same way,” I said to my son’s… Continue reading My Child Is Not A Problem To Be Solved
I have not been the mom I want to be today…not at all. I am so tired. I am increasingly resentful of all the care my children require. I am overwhelmed by a week that seems like it Just. Won’t. End. It feels like there is not enough coffee in the world. The floors are… Continue reading When You’re Not The Mom You Want To Be
Since the day my first baby was born, I have felt responsible for my children’s differences. Not responsible in the “I’m the momma so I need to help my child” kinda way (although I certainly feel that too). Responsible in the “Why do you let him sleep with you instead of in the crib, eat… Continue reading Blaming Parents Of Children With Special Needs
My oldest son was diagnosed with autism when he was just shy of ten years old. But he has lived with it his entire life. From a few days old until today, at age fourteen, my son has been teaching me all about autism. Sometimes, it’s really, really difficult. Sometimes, he takes my breath away… Continue reading When Your Child Has Autism
My house is a disaster area. For reals. I am afraid to look in dust bunny-ridden corners, and the bathrooms make me want to wave a white flag. My approach to school has been hit or miss, at best. The number of doctor appointments, dentist appointments and therapist appointments we have each week is just… Continue reading When Mom Needs To Get Back On Track
“We want him to learn to be social, but not too social.” “Parents must be involved, but not too involved.” “He needs to you to accommodate his needs, but not enable him.” “We want him to make friends, but we don’t want the other kids to feel bad that he has a friend and they… Continue reading The Choice We Make As Parents Of Children With Special Needs