“You baby him. He’s almost eleven years old and you are still helping him get his socks on straight.” “You can’t keep treating him like a baby. He is old enough to sleep through the night. You need some tough love here.” “You are still helping him tie his shoes? Are you kidding me? How… Continue reading Am I Babying My Son?
I hung up the phone and started to cry. I was alone in my room so that I could speak to the doctor’s office privately. I could hear my son starting to meltdown and my husband trying to help him in the next room. But I couldn’t move. I could not open that bedroom door and… Continue reading Neurological Evaluations and Diagnosis: What I Wish Someone Had Told Me
I heard the sound of glass breaking before I could get to his room. I ran in, and a book flew past my head and hit the wall behind me. My son, crying, out of breath, and full of rage, had completely lost control. He was swinging his arms wildly and pacing. He was muttering,… Continue reading My Explosive Child Has Lost Control – What Do I do?
What’s going to happen when he’s older and able to do more damage? Someone is going to get hurt. What if the neighbors call the police? I can’t do this for the rest of my life. We don’t have the money for another window repair. At what point do I call 911? I never thought… Continue reading Calming An Explosive Child
When my son kicked the windshield, I didn’t think it would break. I was wrong. Apparently, the force of losing all rational thought and ability was enough to crack it from end to end. He was crying, flailing and screaming at me. “I can’t do it. Mommmmeeeeeeeee. I can’t. I can’t go in.” We were… Continue reading Why Is My Child So Explosive?
I have been scratched, spat on, threatened, punched and called names. There are holes in the walls, windows that have been broken, iPads that will never be the same and stains on the ceiling that will not come out no matter how hard I scrub. Our school day often involves more than one book or… Continue reading Parenting An Explosive Child
There are eleven separate chronic diagnoses between my two children. Seven times I have sat in a beige room on a beige couch and heard a doctor say the words I knew were coming, but still didn’t want to hear. Your child has… Autism Bipolar Disorder, Type 1 Anxiety Disorder ADHD Sensory Processing Disorder Lupus… Continue reading 10 Must-Read Books For Parenting A Child With Special Needs
When I was in high school, I learned about Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s Five Stages of Grief (the stages we go through when we are processing a significant loss or change). It was part of an assignment for a speech I was working on in debate class. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance I still have them… Continue reading Grieving My Child’s Diagnosis
When I first started homeschooling, I could barely picture the elementary years. I went to school to be an elementary special education teacher – I felt like I should have an idea of what to expect. But middle school and even worse….high school? No idea. A Typical Day Is Anything But I have no idea… Continue reading A Typical Day Is Anything But
My son showed me exactly how he planned to install a CPU into his computer yesterday. (If you don’t know what that is, don’t worry. You are in good company. I listen to my son tell me all about computer parts for most of the day, every day, and I am still not 100% sure… Continue reading Sometimes The Basics Are The Most Difficult
My oldest son was diagnosed with autism when he was just shy of ten years old. But he has lived with it his entire life. From a few days old until today, at age fourteen, my son has been teaching me all about autism. Sometimes, it’s really, really difficult. Sometimes, he takes my breath away… Continue reading When Your Child Has Autism
He threw the book and stomped off to his room. “Don’t you understand?” he yelled, clearly frustrated. “I have dys-A-lexia!” As he slammed the door, I tried to sort through all my reactions – smiling because of the way he pronounced dyslexia, bitter because he threw the book and we have been trying to help… Continue reading Just Because It’s Difficult, Doesn’t Mean You are Doing it Wrong
Oh my goodness, Halloween is almost here. And, like every year, I am anticipating it with a certain amount of excitement, and a certain amount of anxiety. If you don’t have a child on the spectrum or with sensory processing issues, you may think my anxiety is about homemade costumes or sweet decorations. If you… Continue reading Because Halloween And Autism Can Be Scary
It’s Sunday morning. How many families are fighting to get their kids out the door today, and into that Sunday school classroom? When I was a single mom, I used to look at the clock on a Sunday morning and count down the hours and minutes until my sons would be checked in to their… Continue reading Why Does Sunday School Have to be School?